Don’t be “normal” Be you

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Most of us have an intense desire to feel accepted. This need has been hard wired in us ever since we were little. And this results in almost all our life’s decisions and choices to be driven by the predefined standards of normality or acceptability within society.
We have been conditioned to believe that “normal” means going through the traditional education system, working 9-to-5 jobs, getting married in our 20s, having children when we’re young and growing old gradually.
Home-schooling, marrying late, not having children and reverse aging are considered abnormal by a lot of people even today.
We come to realise that the easiest way to feel normal is to fit in , and conform. 
The trouble is that by trying so hard to be someone else’s version of normal ( which by the way can take up a lot of energy) we lose a part of ourselves. We deny ourselves and others the privilege of experiencing our uniqueness.
The concept of normality is more a subjective than objective . What is normal to one person may be abnormal to another. 
Now just for the record by abnormal in this blog I don’t mean to encourage making negative lifestyle choices like drug addiction – I mean for us to feel empowered and rise above the stereotype of normality
It was once suggested that abnormal means ab(ove)normal, but this is not referring to superiority or higher intelligence ; it just means being able to take the road less traveled.
By trying hard to be “normal” we limit ourselves to the ordinary – why not instead embrace ourselves and strive for the extra ordinary.
So stop being a wallflower and stop trying so hard to go unnoticed .
Don’t worry if people call you weird, strange or crazy just because you are being true to yourself.
Realise that your life is valuable. It holds potential for greatness. Don’t let it slip into mediocrity by choosing to live it like everyone else.
It is not a worthy trade.
Cheers and hope you enjoyed reading . Happy Diwali , Happy Gurupurab and Happy Thanksgiving 😊

Do it now !

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“You only get one shot – ” at life. Live it now. Don’t keep it in reserve against a day you might not have.

Life is too short:

  • To be scared to make mistakes. Your worst mistakes will be your best lessons
  • To not chase your dream; to fear the risk of failing at it. Never realising that it is better to fail while reaching for the stars than succeeding at what you never really wanted in the first place
  • To fear taking risks – unaware that the biggest risk is to live as long as you hoped without really doing the things you dreamt of
  • To worry about the trivial and waste what will never come back. Time. We say time is money – but money can be borrowed – time can’t .
  • To feel guilty about doing nothing – sometimes just laugh a little more , lie in bed all day , watch your favourite tv shows, binge on all your favourite food – without regret
  • To put off that “trip of a lifetime” for next year – find a way to make it happen. Your kids can come along. Your job isn’t going anywhere and someone will feed the dog
  • To not tell the ones you love that you love them often enough- assuming you have another day
  • To complain and hold grudges that hurt you more than anyone else

Having said all this – I know that life is not only short , it is sometimes hard. It becomes profoundly complicated for us to chase our dreams.

But why ?

Almost all of us live a life for the approval of others. It’s hardly a life of our own

So take out time to live your life ..your way. Do what matters to you .. and if you don’t know what it is yet .. that’s ok too .. take out time to find out

Live your live now !

You are a part of me

When I look into your eyes .. I don’t see perfection. I don’t see a fairytale. What I do see is someone who will fight for me and protect me and love me no matter what.

You know my darkest secrets .. you’ve seen me at my worst .. you know I’m far from perfect .. even a wreck most times .. but you love me anyway

You’ve made me laugh, you’ve hugged me tight , you’ve wiped my tears , you’ve picked me up when I fell and you’ve applauded when I succeeded

You are a promise that I need no one else as long as I have you I need no one else – you are my best friend forever

And although you and I are unsure about most little and big things in life I am certain that we love each other and will continue to forever .. no matter what

And right now …. I would do anything to have you bury your head in my chest and snuggle up to you

Entangle my fingers and legs in yours .. tell you not to stare at me ..

Tell you not to talk to me .. but when u don’t ask you why you’re not talking. Crib and take out my frustration on you

I would do anything to just be able to have you next to me right now

What is love

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Different people have different versions of what love is. Most describe it as a feeling or an emotion associated with certain behaviours.

I for one have now come to believe that love is a decision.

A decision to commit. A decision not to give up. A decision to work things out. A decision not to leave things up to fate but to pursue the happiness that the relationship brings to you.

I used to believe that love is a mushy feeling of butterflies in your stomach and skipping a heartbeat every time you laid eyes on that special someone – but I guess that’s the falling in love part

Falling in love could be a feeling.

But you see the thing about feelings is that they are here today and gone tomorrow. Today I feel I like having pizza and tomorrow I don’t

Many a times we confuse the idea of falling in love with true love

You see, when we are falling in love, It’s a passive act. We don’t have to do much. Everything comes naturally.And hence we start to expect love to be just that – to happen

True love is what comes after the falling part

True love is a lot of hard work. Take losing weight for example. You know what you need to do to lose weight. You will not always feel like working out, or sticking to a diet and it will not always easy or enjoyable

Love is the same. It’s a choice.

There will be times when you’d rather be selfish, do your own thing – but then in these moments you make a decision: do I choose to love or not? And once you answer this question, you’re committed and you stick to your decisions despite the obstacles.

Many a times when my husband and I are in a fight I tell him “it shouldn’t be this difficult” , “ it should be effortless “

But life is not all fair weather then how can love be. Just like you hit obstacles in your life – be it work, traveling, buying a house, you will hit obstacles with your partner, too. But how why are we are ready to overcome them in any other area of our lives but love? How come when it comes to relationships the moment we experience difficulties we consider giving up? We don’t quit our jobs if we make a mistake. Why quit relationships

When I fell in love with my husband ,God gave me a very precious gift.

But there is one thing that most of us tend to ignore. It’s what’s written on the gift box that reads: Fragile. So fall in love – accept the beautiful gift – and decide to take care of it. Don’t neglect it or kick it around. Chose to handle with care and love – and fix it if you start to see some wear and tear

❤️